Growth often happens quietly and slowly.
Sweet friend, come sit with me for a few minutes today.
I want to ask you something and I really want you to think about it honestly before you answer.
When you look at your life right now — really look at it — do you feel like you’re growing? Or does it feel more like you’ve been standing in the same place for so long that you’ve started to wonder if you’re ever going to move forward?
Because I have a feeling that for some of you reading this today, the honest answer is the second one. And I want you to know — I understand that feeling completely. And I have something really important to tell you about it.
You are growing more than you realize. 🌱
Stay with me today, sweet friend. Pour something warm and let’s talk about this. Because I think by the time you get to the end of this post, you are going to see your season in a completely different light. 💛
Why Growth Feels Invisible
Here’s the thing about growth that nobody really talks about.
The most significant, lasting, life-changing growth almost never feels like growth when you’re in the middle of it. It doesn’t come with a fanfare or a dramatic moment where you suddenly feel different and improved and clearly more evolved than you were yesterday.
Real growth is quiet. It is slow. It is subtle. And it happens mostly in the places we cannot see.
We live in a world that is obsessed with visible, measurable, Instagram-worthy progress. Before and after photos. Transformation stories. Highlight reels of people leveling up and arriving and achieving. And when our own growth doesn’t look like that — when it’s happening in the quiet and the slow and the unseen — we make the mistake of thinking it isn’t happening at all.
But sweet friend, the most powerful growth in nature happens completely out of sight.
The seed underground. The root system of a mighty oak tree, spreading wide and going deep for years before anyone sees a single leaf. The caterpillar dissolving inside the cocoon before it can become the butterfly. None of it is visible. None of it is dramatic. All of it is essential. 🌿
And all of it is exactly what God is doing in you right now.
“For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven.” — Ecclesiastes 3:1
The Tree In Winter
I want to paint a picture for you today that I hope stays with you for a long time.
Imagine a tree in the middle of winter. Not a pretty, snow-dusted Christmas card tree — just an ordinary tree on an ordinary grey January day. Bare branches stretching against a cold sky. No leaves, no blossoms, no fruit. No visible sign of life anywhere on it.
If you didn’t know better, you might look at that tree and think — nothing is happening there. That tree isn’t doing anything. It’s just standing there, bare and empty and stuck.
But here is what is actually happening beneath the surface.
The root system of that tree is doing some of its most important work of the entire year. Roots are going deeper into the soil, reaching further, strengthening, storing up energy and nutrients for everything that is coming. The tree is not dormant — it is preparing. It is getting ready for a spring that it cannot yet see but that is absolutely, certainly, faithfully coming.
And when spring arrives? That tree is going to burst into bloom in a way that takes your breath away. Not because the blooming was sudden — but because all that quiet, invisible winter work made it possible.
Sweet friend, you are that tree. 💛
The season you are in right now — the one that looks bare and feels empty and seems like nothing is moving — that is your winter work. That is your root-going-deeper season. And every single thing that feels hard and slow and invisible right now is preparing you for a spring that is absolutely, certainly, faithfully coming.
“He is like a tree planted by streams of water that yields its fruit in its season, and its leaf does not wither. In all that he does, he prospers.” — Psalm 1:3
What Growth Actually Looks Like
Can I reframe something for you today?
We tend to measure our growth by external things. By what we’ve achieved, what’s changed in our circumstances, what we’ve accomplished, what we can point to and say — look, see, that’s different now. And when those external things aren’t changing fast enough — or at all — we conclude that we must not be growing.
But sweet friend, some of the most profound growth a person can experience has nothing to do with external circumstances at all.
Growth looks like choosing to trust God even when you don’t understand what He’s doing. That is enormous growth. 🌿
Growth looks like responding to a difficult person with grace instead of reacting the way you would have a year ago. That is real, measurable, hard-won growth.
Growth looks like praying when you don’t feel like it. Showing up when you’d rather hide. Forgiving when every part of you wants to hold on to the hurt. Choosing hope when disappointment has been your companion for so long it feels more familiar than faith.
Growth looks like getting up every single day in a season that is hard and doing the next right thing even when you can’t see where you’re going.
That is not nothing. That is everything. 💛
And God sees every single bit of it. He is not looking at your life and seeing someone who is stuck. He is looking at you and seeing a woman who is being refined, strengthened, deepened, and prepared — quietly, slowly, faithfully — for everything He has planned for her next.
“And we all, who with unveiled faces contemplate the Lord’s glory, are being transformed into his image with ever-increasing glory, which comes from the Lord, who is the Spirit.” — 2 Corinthians 3:18
Being transformed. Present tense. Right now. Even in the quiet. Even in the slow. Even in the season that doesn’t look like much from the outside.
He Who Began A Good Work
There is a verse that I come back to over and over again in the seasons when I can’t see my own growth. I want to share it with you today because I think it might become one of yours too.
“Being confident of this, that He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion until the day of Christ Jesus.” — Philippians 1:6
Read that again slowly. He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.
God started something in you, sweet friend. Something good. Something purposeful. Something that He designed specifically and intentionally for you and your life and your story. And He does not start things He doesn’t finish.
He is not looking at you in your quiet, slow, underground season and thinking — hmm, this one isn’t coming along as planned. Maybe I should give up on her.
Absolutely not.
He is tending to you. Like a master gardener who knows exactly what each plant needs and exactly what each season is for. He knows that the winter work is just as important as the spring blooming. He knows that the roots going deeper right now are what will hold you steady when the storms come later. He knows what He is doing — even when we absolutely cannot see it. 🌱
He who began a good work in you will carry it on to completion.
Not maybe. Not if you perform well enough. Not if you figure it all out. Will. It is a promise. And God does not break His promises.
A Letter To The Woman Who Feels Behind
Sweet friend, I want to speak directly to you for a moment — the woman who has been quietly comparing her journey to everyone else’s and coming up feeling like she is somehow behind.
Behind on the timeline she set for herself. Behind where she thought she’d be by now. Behind the friends who seem to be moving forward while she feels like she’s standing still. Behind the version of herself she imagined she’d be at this point in her life.
Can I tell you something gently but clearly?
You are not behind. 🤍
You are exactly where God has you. In exactly the season He has you in. For exactly the reasons He has — even if He hasn’t fully explained those reasons to you yet.
God does not work on our timelines. He does not consult our five-year plans or our Pinterest vision boards or our carefully constructed ideas about when and how things should happen. He works on His timeline — which is always, always better than ours, even when it doesn’t feel that way.
The woman who blooms in October is not behind the woman who bloomed in April. They are both exactly on time. Both exactly as beautiful. Both exactly as purposeful.
Your season is your season, sweet friend. And it is not too late. It is not too slow. It is not too anything. It is exactly right. 💛
“For I know the plans I have for you, declares the Lord, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” — Jeremiah 29:11
How To Tend Your Own Growth
While God is doing the deep work in you, there are things we can do to cooperate with what He’s growing in us. Here are a few gentle practices that have helped me in my own quiet growth seasons:
Stay rooted in His Word. A tree cannot grow deep roots without good soil. The Word of God is the richest soil there is for a growing soul. Even five minutes a day in scripture keeps you connected to the source of everything you need. ☀️
Pray with openness, not just requests. Instead of only bringing God your list, try sitting quietly with Him and saying — show me what you’re growing in me right now. Help me to cooperate with it. You might be surprised what He reveals.
Keep a growth journal. Write down the small shifts you notice — the moment you responded differently than you used to, the fear you faced, the grace you extended, the patience you showed. Reading back over these entries is one of the most encouraging things you can do in a slow season. 🌿
Stop measuring yourself against others. Comparison is the enemy of contentment and the thief of growth. Every time you catch yourself measuring your progress against someone else’s, gently redirect. Your growth is your own and it is happening on exactly the right schedule.
Celebrate the roots, not just the fruit. Learn to recognize and honor the internal work — the character being built, the faith being strengthened, the wisdom being gained. That is where the real growth lives.
Trust the Gardener. He has never lost a plant He was tending. He is not going to start with you. 💛
The Blooming Is Coming
Sweet friend, I want to leave you with this today.
Spring always follows winter. Always. Without exception. Without fail. No matter how long the winter lasts or how grey the sky gets or how bare the branches look — spring comes. It has always come. It will always come.
And your blooming is coming too.
The quiet season you are in right now — the slow, underground, nobody-can-see-it-yet season — is not the ending. It is the preparation. It is the root work. It is God doing some of His most important, most careful, most loving work in you.
And one day — one beautiful, ordinary, unexpected day — you are going to look back at this season and see His fingerprints all over it. You are going to understand why it was slow. Why it was quiet. Why it took as long as it did.
And you are going to be so grateful for every single day of the growing. 🌸
Keep going, sweet friend. Keep trusting. Keep showing up. Keep your roots in the good soil.
You are growing more than you realize. 💛
And the blooming? It is closer than you think. 🌿✨
“Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.” — Galatians 6:9
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Until tomorrow, sweet friend — go knowing that you are growing, you are loved, and the blooming is coming. ✨
With love always, Marilyn 💜